I desperately want to embrace my curves,heck at this point its embrace them or cry haha.I want my girls to have a better sense of self than I do.So maybe this is a moment where I can breath through these feelings and think "Im not so bad" (and heres some honesty,I weigh 75kgs.So Im not huge but not small either.I worked fricking hard to get down from 100kgs.I just cant seem to stop comparing myself to others.But maybe sometimes Im the one someone else is wishing they could be?)
Anyone else out thee in blogging land have these thoughts?
*and a super big note to myself (and yes you chose to read this!), a reminder that I was pregnant literally 18months in a row,my oldest is only 3,so Im not doing too bloody bad*
OMG I know exactly how you feel! I'm used to being 10kg lighter AND I'm not used to being so soft! While pregnant I had plans to run a lot after baby was born but suddenly I was single and I have a clingy baby - how nice it would be to claim my body back!
ReplyDeleteA 25kg weight loss in heaps though! You should be super proud of that!
a man's point of view, but I LOVE my wife's post pregnancy body. each new curve and each stretch mark tell the story of our most intimate and special adventure together, having a family.
ReplyDeleteif i had the option to change her back to how she was pre-pregnancy, I wouldn't even consider it for a second.
you've chosen your own path, so don't compare yourself with others, be who you are!
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ReplyDeleteOMG BEN! Can I have you.. hell I have so many stretch marks.. I'd love to hear that from my man :(
ReplyDeleteBabe, you better not be comparing yourself to me (thinking back to my recent weight question and another time someone's remark on how they wished they looked like me)
From 'the other side' I wish I weighed 75kgs and had more weight (I'm currently 46, but was 42 before pregnancy so I'm doing well kiiiinda) but what I'm struggling with is that because I reached near 60kgs now compared to that (before never knowing what it felt to be fat - well, for me it was fat) I feel like the grossest bag of bones and people always say how 'beautiful' I am but really I do think no one is 100% happy with how they look.
You truly are beautiful and what Ben said is so (nice and) true! Your curves and all that comes with being a lady who's body went through what we did in most ways, and for as long as you did you are doing SO well and it all tells a story.. smile and be proud (hard I know) of what your body achieved..... if this all makes sense!
x
Ben-Jo is one lucky woman!
ReplyDeleteSteve thinks the same aye,before we had kids I had an eating disorder and I know without a shadow of a doubt he prefers how I look now :) Im riddled with stretch marks but to be honest they dont bother me,Im happy to have them knowing its because I was blessed with having our children.
Wasnt dishing for compliments,just want to make that clear :) Just thinking out loud.
Melissa-Hun it wasnt a reflection on anything you've written!! But by the way you are so beautiful!Funny how no matter what size we are we have days where we wish we were different.
I think at the moment its more of a 'I wish I had time to exercise like I used too' but seriously anyone wanting to loose weight,have kids a year apart!Keep you on your toes haha.
But thanks guys :) A wonderful reminder to appreciate how God has made me
xoxo